Insecurity
Many people have come for counseling, and in doing so, had a root source of their problems pointed out by God, and once they saw it, they refused to deal with it. They want to be free from their addictions, but they don’t want to deal with the reason that they are bound by their addictions. Often this is because it is hard to be honest with yourself and others about your past, which may be seen as another sign of weakness and insecurity. When men come into our discipleship home, I tell them in our first counseling session that they will never get victory without first being willing to deal with whatever needs to be dealt with, and second, without being completely honest with God, me, and themselves about the real issues. I have spent countless hours counseling side issues to the point of great frustration because the underlying issues were still concealed, and one side issue would just be absorbed by another. Until you deal with the root of the problem, you are wasting your time trying to change the fruit.
The second thing that we see David do is acknowledge that the way he would deal with his insecurity do not work; only God’s way works. Another way to say this is that you must realize the fallacy of false security. He says in verse 3, “When my spirit was overwhelmed within me, then thou knewest my path.” Doing it your way is what got you into the snare that has you imprisoned. Doing it your way has kept you bound by the fake sources of security that have never genuinely fulfilled your needs. If you are overwhelmed, it is time to stop doing it your way and accept that God knows the path you need to take. Anything outside of His path is full of snares and traps that will just lead to more prisons.
If you are going to get victory over your compulsions, then you must start seeing the false security for what it is. Your addictions have not made you more secure; they have made you more vulnerable. You are not more secure because of pornography; you are more vulnerable because of the secrets, you are more vulnerable because of the damaging effect on your thinking, and it is leading to a hindrance in other relationships. You are not more secure because of alcohol; you are more vulnerable because of it, and you are hurting yourself and others. The same is true for drugs and food and every other compulsion that we substitute to try and fill our void of security. You must begin to be honest about what these things are. They have never been a real solution to your problem, but have only compounded your problems. The feeling of security that you got from them was fake, a façade, there was never any there, there. Realizing this will help you discount the false narrative in your mind that you need this to feel normal or secure.
